People who have been abused in childhood and/or in adulthood relationships, significant other, friends, relatives etc., often deny their fear and need for harm reduction. Many deny their fear and what they know is traumatizing because they want a relationship to work out. Facing fear and the need for harm reduction as soon as possible helps people to get on the pathway to healing that much faster.
Narcissistic abuse victims or survivors commonly experience many defenses - I include 10 that are one path or common experience as each victim who will become a survivor of Narcissistic Abuse first is ambivalent and avoids the pain and anger and a myriad of emotions in the Defenses or Inhibitory Emotions sections of the Change Triangle. The one path that leads to recovery must be consciously chosen and followed when one is ready and it involves working through the two corners of the change triangle to work toward, with professional help, one's core emotions and processing them along with processing the trauma and learning skills and coping tools to achieve a deep and lasting healing and what that healing looks like and means. I work with clients to help guide them through this recovery from Narcissistic and/or other Cluster B abuse with 24 years experience and I, myself, am a thriver after my own personal life experiences with being abused by two Narcissist parents and a partner (years ago) with BPD/NPD who was also an alcoholic.
Are you self-sacrificing yourself too much while being abused and traumatized? If the person with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life is not in therapy why are you still there? Is this good for you? If they are how can you know if they are really serious and engaged in the process? I outline an overview of 5 phases/stages of recovery from BPD which is possible but so many will go under pressure and not being engaged in therapy. When that is the case what do Loved Ones of BPD need to Know and need their own healing processes for?
What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? What are the effects of Narc abuse? Why do narcissists hurt and traumatize so much? A look at the reality of narcissistic abuse and what NPD is and what happens to those who love someone with NPD or have a parent or any other type of "relationship" with or in proximity of a narcissist.
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Covert Narcissists exposed for the reasons they manifest targeting predatory narcissistic abuse in ways that are much more difficult to spot, often, before one has been abused and traumatized. Covert Narcissists often seem to be (as they fake being) codepdendents, which they absolutely are not.
What is at the heart or center of Narcissistic Personality Disorder? This central result of an intra-psychic narcissitic injury also reveals the core difference between overt and covert narcissists.